Paraphrasing Lionel Richie: Once, Twice, Three Times A …Bride?!

A couple of months ago I went to the wedding of a close friend.  It was a small-ish affair and quite lovely.  We were blessed with beautiful weather, the vibe amongst the guests was friendly, the food was bountiful, and the music was good.  The pre-wedding reception was pleasant. Still, I felt a little weird.  At first, I couldn't quite put my finger on where this feeling was coming from, but it became clear to me during the ceremony when they recited their vows.

I watched them gaze lovingly into each others eyes promising to "love, cherish…til death us do part."  Aha! Here's where that weird feeling I was having came from.  This is her third wedding, the third time she's made this promise.

No judgement here, but I couldn't help but wonder if she felt weird, too.  As she recited these vows, I wondered if she had flashbacks to the first time, the second time she made this same promise.  I felt a little sad and hopeful at the same time.

I wondered if she felt, "Gosh. I've failed at this before…" -or- was it more like "Look, if at first you don't succeed..."  I hope it was the second one because it feels more upbeat, maybe with even a little humor mixed in.

Clearly she believes in marriage and, God bless her, I hope this one goes the way it's supposed to this time.

I'm sure it's not just me.  Have you experienced similar feelings at a "remarriage?"



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A Woman and Her Six Husbands

The other day, I saw a guy on TV who was promoting his new book, "The Six Husbands Every Woman Should Have."  I stopped what I was doing to have a look and listen.  Geez, if I'd known I should have six husbands, marriage might have been more appealing to me.  It was the whole finding-one-and-till-death-do-us-part thing that tripped me up.

I quickly learned that, unfortunately,  he did not mean a woman should have six different husbands.  Instead, what he meant was that a man has to evolve to adapt to the changes in his life over the years and there are apparently six such phases…and that he becomes a different man with each change.  I actually think it's probably an exaggeration that he becomes a different man over the years…or that he even changes that many times.  But, I get it.  No doubt it sells books.  Just like I stopped doing what I was doing to watch, I'm sure many others did, too.  If I was married, I might even have picked up the book.

But let's go back to my original thought.  What if every woman did actually have six husbands in her lifetime?  How much more fun would that be!  A lot, I think.  Working out the finances and housing and kids and other details would probably be complicated but if six-husbands-per-woman became the norm, I'm sure someone would figure out how to make it do-able…and not too much of a headache.

So what do y'all think:  Is six husbands better than one…or none?


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