Making Hannah Spinsterlicious

My friend, Hannah, is a Spinster like me.  Unlike me, though, she really hates it.  It makes me a little sad that she does, because I think she’s got a pretty good life in so many respects.   She’s cute (some guys even say “hot”), has an active social life, a good-paying full-time job, and a side hustle that she really enjoys.  She owns her home, has a car with a reasonable monthly payment, and me as a good friend :-).   I look at all this and think she’s got a lot going for herself, but she hates being single and not having kids…and it’s dragging her down.


So, I want to help her feel better about the place she’s in.  I know I can’t really “make her Spinsterlicious”; only she can do that, but I’d like to try to help.  Spinsterlicious-ness is a mindset, a place that celebrates what’s good about your life, and frees you up to enjoy the choices you’ve made…consciously or unconsciously.  I don’t think she needs to love being single, but I do think she should embrace what’s good about her life.   So here’s a few thoughts I want to share with her:


   1. Try not to feel/look/act desperate.  It's not attractive to guys AND it causes you to make poor decisions (not you specifically, desperation makes anyone make poor decisions)
   2. Think for just a minute about all the miserable married people you know.  Just the miserable ones.  It’ll remind you that marriage is not necessarily the answer to your problems.  Which leads me to point  3.
   3. Is it really being single that’s making you so sad, or are there other things going on in your life that might be causing it, and being single is just something easy to point to?
   4. Take an assessment of what’s good about your life and “live there” for awhile.  Studies show that people who actively appreciate their good fortunes are happier.  And finally…
   5. Throw on some high heels and lip gloss…and a smile the next time you go out.  (It can’t hurt!)

I’d love to hear other perspectives.  Do you have any advice for Hannah to help her live a Spinsterlicious life…for the time being –or- forever?  Please post your thoughts below and let’s get this girl movin’!