The title of this post sounds like it belongs to a romantic drama on the Lifetime Channel, doesn't it? And it kinda is, except it's not a movie, it's real life...and Lordy, I sure hope the woman I'm writing about doesn't know about my blog. (Could be awkward).
Anyway, my (distant) cousin is happily married to a man she calls the man of her dreams. I believe her. They're really cute together and they seem to be very much in love.
Here's the problem...if it is a problem. My cousin's husband --let's call him Abner, and her Daisy) -- used to be the live-in love of Daisy's best friend! Yep.
Here's my understanding of what happened. Daisy was visiting her friend when Abner came home from work. The three of them had dinner and a little wine...and, apparently the proverbial sparks flew between Daisy and Abner. Girlfriend became persona non grata that evening...although I don't think she knew it at the time.
Long story short, Abner moved from Girlfriend's place -to- Daisy's shortly thereafter. (Worked well for him, right? From one ready-made home to another).
I am told that (1) Girlfriend and Abner fought a lot and it wasn't that great of a relationship, and (2) that the attraction Daisy and Abner felt for each other was immediate, "electric" and clearly "meant to be". (Of course...for both 1&2).
However, I must say, Daisy and Abner have been married for 10 years and they do seem to be very much in love. That's the Had-to-Happen Love Story part
The Ultimate Betrayal part? Well, Girlfriend lost her Best Friend AND her Man at the same time. Wow. (Crazy, right? Because if you're fighting with your man, your best friend consoles you. If you're fighting with your best friend, your man can comfort you. But not for Girlfriend...now what?)
So, here's what I've thought about all these years:
- Should Daisy and Abner have "fought" their feelings...for ethical reasons? -or-
- Was their relationship meant to be...and that's that?
I can't say what I would do in a situation like this because I believe you can't definitively know what you'll really do in a situation you've never been in. I would hope, though, that I would respect my friendship with my good friend and avoid her man. But...suppose "that feeling" is the most powerful ever felt? Suppose it was meant to be? Then what?
What say you?
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