The Best Relationship Advice I Ever Got

Actually, this story I'm about to tell is probably not about the best relationship advice I've ever gotten, but it is certainly about my favorite relationship advice.  It still makes me smile.

Several years ago, a guy I was dating decided to break up with me two days before a big party he was throwing.  I had been looking forward to this party for weeks because it would be big and fancy and fun.  The outfit I had picked out was perfect.  It was part of a series of important charitable events being held for this specific cause and would be "the place to be" that night...if you could get in.

So when he called to tell me he had run into his old girlfriend who wanted to come to the party...as his guest...and he had agreed, well I felt like I had been punched in the stomach.  This was messed up on too many levels:  (1) he chose her over me,  (2)  we were breaking up,  (3) we were breaking up before this party I was looking so forward to,  (4) I would feel embarrassed.

And one of the worst things was that lots of media would be in attendance at this party, so I couldn't even plan to pretend it wasn't happening because it would be covered in all the local newspapers, TV news, and all over the internet.  Geez.

I called my girlfriends to tell them what happened and received all the expected support: "Oh no...that's horrible...what a bastard...I'm so sorry."  They all said the right soothing things.

Except Lauren.  She said: "You're going to that d*** party".

Me:  "What?"

Lauren:  Call G (a previous ex-), take him, get glammed up, go to the party, and have a blast.  EFF HIM!"

And that's exactly what I did.  G was the right date for so many reasons:  he was richer and more handsome than the guy who dumped me, he's fun and sociable, and loves to dance.  We had a ball.

And the look on Boyfriend's face when he saw us there was beyond priceless.  Plus, when people who thought we were a couple saw him with someone else, they also saw me with someone else, and I liked that.   Because I changed the script on this situation, I felt strong and powerful and in control,  instead of pathetic and sad and bereft.   I felt like Lauren was the smartest woman in the world that day because she knew exactly what I needed.  It felt good.

So what about you?  Have you ever been given any advice that changed what seemed to be the likely outcome of a situation?  Please share.



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